My Place Or Yours?
This post is an expansion of the My Place Or Yours Post on Love, Staci
How many times have you been told "stay in your place", "don't forget where you come from", or "that's impossible"? We receive feedback from people that discourages us from pursuing our dreams, doing those things that truly bring us joy or living our best lives. People who we love and admire can often be blinded by their own percieived limitations.
Often, we cannot see for others what we cannot see for ourselves. We are fearful that people will leave us behind or that we won't get to where we want to be. Watching other people grow challenges us in ways we may not ready to be challenged. We have to admit to ourselves that we may not be committed enough to pursue our dreams. We are afraid that it may just be impossible (or even more frightening, possible).
We share our visions, looking for encouragement and support, but instead get admonitions, reminders of past mistakes and tons of examples of other people's failures. Advice veiled as concern can be unveiled jealousy and fear once peeled back. When we get the kind of advice that tells us not to branch out, grow and pursue bigger and better things, it can be from genuine concern. That advice can also be placed in the "if I can't do it, neither can you" category. We can be threatened by greatness. When we see people living out loud, it inspires us to move, or reminds us of how we're not moving. The same goes for others. When the threat of someone growing up and away becomes too great, fear kicks in and causes people to dash dreams and discourage forward motion. The truth is, nothing is impossible. Dreams may require some time, commitment and discipline, but they are not impossible. Sometimes, we unconsciously discourage others from moving forward out of fear of being left behind. Being challenged and questioned about our plans is okay. Telling ourselvs and others what cannot be done, isn't. The next time someone discourages you from living an amazing life, think: "Whose place am I in, mine or yours"? Remember, no one can tie you down or hold you back unless you let them.
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Posted on Saturday, Jan 30, 2010
